Saturday, September 8, 2007

Alone = Incomplete

I used to think in the past that one should be happy, self-sufficient before one can be qualified to fall in love, but what if one is unhappy in the first place? So what? You try making yourself happy? Until one is happy then can one fall in love? But what if, what if you are unable to make yourself happy? Then what? You aren’t supposed to fall in love then?

"I've tried just making myself happy. She's tried making herself happy.
It doesn't work. You need other people to make you happy."

This was taken from the movie, About A Boy, another must watch film.

What if, what if we were programmed, what if it was hard-wired into our mind that the only way to be happy, is to be with others, and that there is no way one can ever be happy being an island. Well, not really...

"Every man is an island. And I stand by that.
But clearly, some men are part of island chains.
Below the surface of the ocean they're actually connected."

(Also from the movie)

And so, the point is, we all have this very basic need to connect and relate to others, we need other people to make us happy. So I take back my words about how one should be happy before one can fall in love.

Anyway, What the heck! If you’re in love, just fall in love, we'll never be completely ready for love anyway.

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