Simple Maths

Some people believe in the one, in destiny, that there is only one person out there for us, tailored specially for us.

I have no comments for that. I think there isn't much point thinking about such things or having such beliefs. But I do know something, that it is very very hard to find a person to like and have that someone like you back. Simply because of the mathematics!

Rough statistics say around 100 people you see, you may like 5. So that gives you a 5% chance of liking that someone everytime you meet a person. Then the probability of liking a person and having that person like you back is 5% x 5%, which gives, 0.25%. So you see, whenever you find your love not reciprocated, it should be very much expected, it is simple mathematics, it is how this world works, so don't be sad, it is just the way of life.

So people, if you ever find a perfect match, cherish it! It doesn't happen very often.

Playing games

When we were young, we played with toys. As we grow older, we run out of toys to play with, so we play with feelings and emotions instead.

Some people are very against the notion of playing games to get love, they say this is not true love, true love shouldn't be so.

I think as all things in this world are, we should practise everything in moderation. Sometimes, even true love needs a little spicing up by playing games to keep the flame going.

And as all things in this world are, too much of everything is no no good. It simply shows that one is more in love with oneself than one's partner.

Jealousy

Jealousy isn't a pleasant trait, but if it isn't overdone (and if it's combined with modesty), apart from its inconvenience there's even something touching about it.

Just as most things in this world are, jealousy is neither good nor bad, it is merely a tool to be used, and whether it'll turn out to be good or bad depends entirely on the user.

A certain amount of jealousy is definitely needed to spice up passion between lovers though perhaps most would beg to differ. Jealousy stems from our love for the other therefore simply put, jealousy co-exists with love just as good has to co-exist with evil. For the engineers and mathematicians out there, a simple translation would be love = jealousy + __ + many others which will be talked about in the next lecture or so.

Seeing jealousy in our special one evokes a wonderful feeling that is indescribable which I'm sure many of you would have experienced from one time to another. But just because we can't put words to that feeling, it doesn't deny the existence of it. Yes, there's just something so beautiful and touching about it, that is, if it is not overdone and combine with modesty.

Perhaps it isn't apparent what I meant by the combination of jealousy with modesty so let me explain. Your girl feels jealous that some other girl was flirting with you a moment ago but she doesn't voice this out. You can feel jealousy erupting inside her but her sense of dignity and pride will not permit her to seek the assurance and conviction of your love for her. You are in fact supposed to do so without being asked or probed. When you tell her she's merely a friend she would say, "Whatever", acting as if it doesn't bother her at all trying to put you down, trying to seek her own revenge for erupting the jealousy in her. If one reads this as an act of jealousy thus an indication of the intensity of her love for you, then one would feel it extremely touching and beautiful. However, some might read it as an act of immaturity and would have missed out on this wonderful feeling that only jealousy+modesty is able to evoke.

...they do not know that they seek only
the chase and not the quarry.

~ Blaise Pascal

Unable to Love

Hey people,

Recently I've been busy, stressed, tired, sad etc etc.... I'm not trying to complain.. Hmm.. Actually I am, but MOSTLY, it's just to apologize for not doing any writings of my own. But Seriously, the passages I've been sharing are the ones I really like and thought them worth reading. Today is no exception, I'm still extremely busy and my soul's almost dehydrated so please enjoy another masterpiece this time from Mr Milan Kundera.

"Nor had she ever asked herself the questions that plaque human couples: Does he love me? Does he love anyone more than me? Does he love me more than I love him? Perhaps all the questions we ask of love, to measure, test, probe, and save it, have the additional effect of cutting it short. Perhaps the reason we are unable to love is that we yearn to be loved, that is, demand something(love) from our partner instead of delivering ourselves up to him demand-free and asking for nothing but his company."

The Birth of Feeling

Feelings are not as old as time, just as there was a first instant when someone rubbed two sticks together to make a spark, there was a first time joy was felt, and a first time for sadness...

Having begun to feel, people's desire to feel grew. They wanted to feel more, feel deeper, despite how much it sometimes hurt. People became addicted to feeling.

Nicole Krauss